Friday, December 18, 2009

Shocking News!!!


I had my latest antenatal check up on last Thursday, when I found that I’ve lost almost 2 kg since the last check up. I was happy (and surprise too) because I heard that losing some weight at the end of pregnancy indicates something that I’ve been waiting: the time! It has almost come! (I would rather take it as a myth though)…plus, I’ve been craving this and that lately so the fact that my weight went down despite the extra food intake makes me really happy (hihihiihi)...

But…my happiness didn’t last long..busted in a blink of an eye when the Dr said that I shouldn’t have lost my weight and that it may indicate something is wrong (I was like…what? You kidding me!) Can you imagine…it’s my 38th week pregnancy, full of excitement…and suddenly the ‘something-is-not-right’ came out from the Dr’s mouth! I was really shocked! So she referred me to the government’s clinic for further check up (which means I have to go to that crowded place again, standing while waiting until my number is called which then when the time comes I will have to hear the nurses nagging about this and that that I should and shouldn’t do. Oh by the way, I didn’t go there for the next appointment which I should’ve gone, so I can imagine that they would scold me for that… ready!!!). My goodness, I really wished I didn’t have to go to that place anymore. Nevermind, for aliya’s sake, mommy will do everything (*wink*)

So we made a plan to go there on the next day. That evening we were watching football match between Malaysia and Vietnam when we realized it was gonna be a public holiday on Friday. Public holiday on Friday means that the earliest time we can do the check up would be on the following Monday! Panic, I called my relative who is a doctor. Thank God, she told me that nothing is to be worried about if the baby kept moving like was really a relief..Alhamdulillah (it did relieve me a lot since aliya is not only moving more than 10 times a day, but she has been kicking every inch of my tummy all she wants..I made a conclusion that she is preparing herself to be a sports girl unlike her mom hehehe) ..Alhamdulillah..alhamdulillah…

That’s all news about aliya, brought to you by …..

Actually I have been thinking a lot about her…she’s coming out soon insyaAllah..but have I prepared enough to be a good mother? How would I make her to listen to me? How would I know what she wants when she cries like crazy? Things like that…

And most important, I’ve been asking myself, what kind of person will she be growing up as? What I want her to be?

Thank God, I've found the answer (and it's perfect!). What is it? jeng jeng be continued! (so make sure you read the next entry hehe)

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Saturday, December 12, 2009

Meditation....the Islamic way!


Semalam saya menghadiri antenatal class di Selangor Medical Center. My feedback? Thumbs up! Memang best (except a session when a young lady talked about dietary...pretty lame) Tapi masa Pn Faridah gave her presentation, it was funny yet very informative. Definitely I recommend going for SMC antenatal class should you need to attend one (the cheapest one too!).

Oh, salah satu yang saya belajar semalam ialah pasal the need for pregnant mother to exercise. OK, I don’t want to talk too much about the information I got from the antenatal class assuming that they can be easily found from internet/books (yet, I still went to the class, oh ho. But I can say that neither internet nor books can present the information as good as Pn Faridah could, so it was not a waste at all). Actually, yang saya nak share ialah ini: This morning I started to exercise for about 30 mins..just walking down the street at my MIL’s place. My husband was jogging too, although we took different routes (definitely cause I would not be able to catch him up). Then we took some time after the exercise to relax under the tree next to my MIL’s house. Oh it felt really good to enjoy the fresh air after such tiring walk (I must tell that I didn’t sweat much but the sense of well being did come to me). After doing some warming down, he taught me something very interesting. What is it? Jeng jeng jeng…I call it meditation the Islamic way..

Lets try it. It goes like this. Mula-mula duduk dalam keadaan bersila. Tegakkan badan belakang dan tangan di lutut dengan lengan dalam keadaan straight (posing mcm org tengah meditate tu)..tutup mata..relaks…then cuba feel angin yang bertiup dan menghembus sehingga anda dapat rasakan kesegarannya..sehingga anda menterjemahkannya sebagai satu nikmat…memang best…it was so amazing that you can even hear the sound of the flowing wind..something you would never feel or realize before. Then try to listen to any sound you hear…bunyik burung, air, desiran angin, sayup-sayup bunyi kereta…ohh memang best…terasa seperti kita dalam satu dunia lain yang penuh warna-warni dan kenikmatan. It is actually the world we live in cuma kita je yang tak pernah perasan.

So then, with all these feelings…say thanks to Allah from the very bottom of your heart..ask for His forgiveness that we rarely appreciate and be grateful to this stage, talk to Allah all you want to say like what you would have said in your doa (but in a more relaxing way)…then open your eyes…and you will find yourself feeling good. You will notice again those things you felt and heard just now when you closed your eyes….and surprisingly they would make you smile.

Believe it or not. Lets try it!

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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Mencorakkan kain putih


"Setiap anak lahir dalam keadaan fitrah dan kedua orang tuanyalah yang meyahudikan, atau mengkristiankan, atau memajusikannya."

Membaca hadith di atas, teringat saya pada kata-kata seorang sahabat yang tinggi ilmu, semangat dan pengalamannya, Kak Gayah. Menurutnya, jika seorang kafir memeluk Islam, dia bukanlah ‘convert’ kepada Islam, tetapi istilah ‘revert’ lebih tepat. Kenapa? Kerana sejak alam roh lagi, kita semua adalah Muslim. Kita mengaku bahawa Allah adalah Tuhan kita.

Saya berbincang dengan suami berkenaan perkara ini. Menurut suami, setiap kita lahir dalam keadaan fitrah, ertinya seperti kain putih, kosong, bersih…yang belum tercorak apa-apa di atasnya. Atau boleh diistilahkan sebagai ‘neutral’. Mengapa? Kerana Allah ingin bersikap adil kepada setiap manusia, iaitu setiap dari kita bermula dengan permulaan yang sama…kain putih yang belum tercorak itu.

Kemudian suami bertanya, Apa sebenarnya yang ingin disampaikan dalam hadith itu?

Saya terkejut. Saya fikir penjelasan bahawa Allah itu Maha Adil sudah cukup menjadi intisari hadith di atas. Rupanya Allah ingin menyampaikan pengajaran yang lebih penting, iaitu betapa besarnya peranan ibu bapa dalam ‘mencorakkan’ anak yang lahir itu.

Menurut suami, anak-anak kita insyaAllah tidak akan bertukar agama menjadi Yahudi, Kristian atau Majusi. Tetapi, pemikiran mereka mungkin dipengaruhi oleh budaya hedonism, materialism, individualism, feminism dll, yang dimomokkan oleh Barat dan kaum liberal.

Memperluaskan pemahaman

Maka, skop pemahaman kita terhadap hadith ini perlu diperluaskan, sesuai dengan keadaan sekarang ini. Walaupun anak kita seorang Muslim, tapi kita sebagai ibu bapanyalah yang mencorakkan pemikirannya, sikapnya, jiwa dan rohaninya. Hasil peranan ibu bapalah yang menentukan samada anak itu :

lebih suka menghadiri kuliah agama…..atau bergelumang maksiat di pusat-pusat hiburan…
lebih suka menolong orang lain…..atau bersikap mementingkan diri sendiri….
lebih bersikap humble….atau seorang yang sombong bongkak. ..

Subhanallah….satu hadith yang cukup mendalam maknanya untuk renungan kita sebagai ibu bapa…

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